BDSM - Another common catch-all term that has much the same use as WIITWD. It stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism.
BONDAGE - The practice of restraining your victim.
CANES - Long, thin rods with straight handles.
CBT - This is an acronym for COCK AND BALL TORTURE.
COLLAR - A neck piece resembling a dog collar. Frequently they have a lock on the back and D-RINGS for attaching a leash.
CROPS - A whip with a hard shaft and a flat piece of leather at the end. Generally the leather piece is used to make contact, not the shaft.
CUFFS - Most often leather bracelets worn on the ankles and wrists, with D-RINGS on them so they can be hooked or chained together.
DISCIPLINE - DISCIPLINE can be a synonym for following a your TRAINING or it can be used to reference what happens to you when you are a bad and receive punishment.
DOMINANCE - In the sense that one has been given some measure of control by the submissive person. The level of control varies on an completely individual basis.
DOMINANT (also: Dom, Domme) - One who derives emotional and/or erotic satisfaction from a partner’s surrender of control. Additionally may be referred to as: Master, Mistress, Sir, Ma’am, Lady, Lord, Prince, Princess.
DUNGEON (also: PLAYSPACE, PLAYROOM) - A dungeon is any place specifically designated for PLAY and where equipment specifically used for the purpose of play is kept.
ENGLISH - A euphemism referring to play involving CANES or CROPS.
EXHIBITIONIST - Someone for whom exhibition is a big turn-on.
FETISH - A sexual fixation on a particular object, activity, scenario, etc. The clinical definition denotes something that must be present to achieve orgasm but this term is often used simply to define a preference.
FLOGGER, CAT-O’NINE-TAILS - A catchall term that includes any multi-thonged whip (a whip with more than one "tail" on it).
GAGS - A device used to cover the mouth or insert into the mouth to prevent speech.
GREEK - A euphemism for anal sex.
HOODS - In addition to using a hood to prevent seeing, some hoods are designed to prevent hearing as well.
LEATHER - Besides a great material, this term is also used as a general adjective for the community e.g., LEATHER COMMUNITY, LEATHERFOLK.
LIFESTYLER - Someone whose DOMINANT/SUBMISSIVE inclinations and interactions extend beyond the bedroom or dungeon and into their daily lives.
LIMIT - Those things that a submissive can’t or won’t do.
MASOCHIST- A person who receives pleasure from receiving a sadist’s ministrations.
MUNCH - A social gathering for like minded people who wish to meet and socialize only.
PADDLES - Usually made of wood or leather, a paddle has a handle with a flat area for proper spanking.
PLAYPARTY - A social gathering where people gather for the purpose of socializing and PLAYING.
S & M - Besides being a general term to identify the lifestyle this term can also be used to denote the physical activity of giving and receiving pain.
SADIST - A person who receives erotic pleasure from the application of pain.
SAFEWORD - A code word that stops the play immediately.
SERVICE-ORIENTED - A SUBMISSIVE who gets deep satisfaction from rendering service to a dominant, such as making their coffee, giving foot massages, etc.
SPANKING HORSE (also: SPANKING BENCH) - Resembling a sawhorse, usually padded and upholstered with leather, and with some kind of crosspiece added for leg-stability. Often there are hooks added as well so that the victim can be bound or hooked to it.
SSC - An acronym for "Safe, Sane, Consensual".
SUBMISSION - Submission involves the yielding of some level of power or control by the submissive to the dominant.
SUBMISSIVE (also: SUB, SUBBIE) - One who derives emotional and/or erotic satisfaction from surrendering some level of control to a dominant. Additionally may be referred to as: Slave, Boy, Girl, Slaveboy, Slavegirl, Pet.
SWITCH - Someone who can be both; a MASOCHIST and a SADIST or a SUBMISSIVE and a DOMINANT.
TRAINING - The progress of a DOMINANT teaching a SUBMISSIVE how to act or behave.
VANILLA - A person who doesn’t do PLAY in a lifestyle fashion. It can be used as a noun e.g., "My last girlfriend was a vanilla" or as an adjective e.g.,"We had vanilla sex yesterday".
WIITWD - An acronym that stands for "what it is that we do". Due to the complexities of this lifestyle it is in very common use as a non-specific term for lifestyle activities.
X-FRAME (also: St. Andrews Cross) - Pretty much what it sounds like. It is a large piece of furniture that is x-shaped, sometimes with a wooden base, sometimes just nailed or otherwise fastened to a wall. The SUBMISSIVE/BOTTOM can then be stood up against it and bound to it through the conveniently placed eyebolts in the appropriate places.
